Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize and understand emotions and to respond appropriately to it. Maybe you know someone who is very successful… but always say the wrong things to others? Well, this may be a sign of EQ deficit. Is there any help for people who have no EQ then? Yes, there is! They need to understand the nuances of body language so that they can respond favourably to it.
First, let’s talk about self-awareness. This is important because one needs to be aware of himself because understanding of others can occur. Say you are pitching your idea to a prospective investor. However you become defensive when he probes about your qualifications (because he would like to know how qualified you are). You take that as a personal insult, and answer rudely. Do you think the money is going to come to you?
Many times, we allow emotions to interfere with decision-making, and that proves to be our downfall. Therefore it is important to be self-aware. How well do you know yourself? Are you someone who has a short fuse? Are you patient? Do you practice active listening?
Here are 2 quick and effective ways you can use to master EQ:
- READ – Learn to read body language. If someone crosses his arms while talking to you, it is likely that the person is reacting to what you’re saying. Check yourself: Are you being too assertive? Are you offending with your words? When you are presenting an idea or business proposal, learn to look at the other party in the eye, to show that you value his time and effort listening.
- THINK – Always think positively. Learn to take a step back. In fact, when a situation happens, count to 5 before you respond. Focus on what is at hand, what you can do. Be aware of what you are doing. Think about the possible solutions, and offer them to discuss and resolve.
One last tip: Regarding the intimate relationship with a loved one, open up your heart and express your love wholeheartedly. Why so?
When you are in a close personal relationship, the ability to express love is essential and critical to maintaining it. When you are able to share that emotion intimately with your other half, you are nourishing the relationship so that it is strengthened in the best way possible.
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