The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Ego, the false idea of believing that you are what you have or what you do, is a backwards way of assessing and living life.
The ego is very special and fascinating concept, and there are many scientific studies focusing on it. In 2011, a study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science discovered that people tend to shop for high-status items AND pay by credit card when their ego was threatened. Credit purchases are more likely because parting with cash can be more psychologically painful.
In 2013, a research study in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin suggested that we tend to gravitate to our Facebook profiles whenever we suffer a setback to the go. Accordingly, the participants browsed their profiles more when they were given a negative feedback following a brief speech. Finally, in November 2015, work life balance proves to be pivotal in determining whether your boss is a tyrant or not. From the study spanning mid-level managers and their direct subordinates, Stephen Courtright and his peers at Texas A&M University found that “ego-depletion” from family-to-work conflicts has a major role in the reason why bosses treat their staff badly. These are just a few of the studies around.
It is actually and definitely all right to have an ego, because that is only human. However we ought to prevent an excessive and unhealthy display of it.
Here are the best way to cultivate a healthy one:
Value – Find value, and worth, in what you do, and what you can control i.e. the whole process of it, rather than focusing on the result. Otherwise it puts you in a position to heedlessly chase for the result every time, without considering the more positive effects out of the task. What happens if you fall and fail?
Once you find worth and value in what you are doing, you also become a more resilient individual, developing humbleness and humility along the way.
Every normal person, in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent.
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